The past couple of weeks have been filled with wedding events. Last weekend, my own sister married the love of her life, Josh. They got engaged back in October and while I knew the time would fly between October and June, I didn't realize how fast. I was the matron of honor in the wedding and it was a true honor to be in that position although, I found it hard to tend to Jen while also having children to dress and prepare for pictures. Not to mention, I decided the night before that the speech I had planned to give just wasn't good enough and so I sat down at 3:30 that afternoon (wedding started at 4:30) to rewrite the entire speech. The day went very well overall and Jen looked beautiful. As she walked down the isle and for the remainder of the day, it hit me that our relationship was going to a completely new level after that day. She would always be my sister but now she also had given me a brother in law and our conversations would not just only be about my kids and how work was going for her, it would be about what her and Josh were doing and how things were going being a newlywed.
I can't imagine that it will be too long before they begin the journey of starting a family and then it will change again. My whole point to this is that it just seems crazy to me how not only do friends and friendships change throughout your life, so do your relationships with your own siblings and while I'm at it, I'll throw parents in there too!
It literally seems like just yesterday that we were rollerskating in the basement or playing church on the steps. Yearly vacations to Florida flooded to my mind that day too. Where has the time gone??? Is this really how life is? How can I slow it down???? It's out of my control!
Today, I got to be the guest at another wedding. While it was nice to be the guest, the bride that I was there to celebrate with, is a young woman that I used to babysit for. I remember things about her from when she was little and now I look at her and can't believe she's actually old enough to be married. I told my mom the other day that it's kind of hard for me to go back home to events like that because I have seen how parent's of friends whom I grew up with have aged so much. Have I aged too???? NEVER! Turning 30 has been good for me. It's not only made me realize the value of a minute spent nurturing a "boo boo" on one of my kids, or an hour playing outside, it's also taught me to enjoy the people that are in my life right now because the only thing that's constant is change and I could wake up tomorrow and my life could be totally different.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Friday, June 5, 2009
Out of the crib and into the big boy bed.
This week, we passed another milestone. We got a call on Saturday from my dad because he had gone to an Amish furniture liquidation sale and he was wondering if there was anything we needed. Brad shared with him that it may be a little early but in the near future we would be needing a bed for Carson. It wasn't much longer and we had a call that the bed had been found. A nice twin size bed...perfect! So, while I wasn't sure if I was ready to do the transition, dad had plans to deliver this bed the very next day. By Sunday afternoon, they were here with the bed. It didn't take long for Brad to take the crib apart right after Carson's last nap in it and they got the new bed upstairs and put together before they left to go to Sam's Club for a new matress.
It was quite obvious that Carson was not excited about this new change as he would not even walk into his room by himself.
Sunday night was a nightmare! We started Carson's bedtime routine at 9:00 just like we always do but to no avail. As soon as his teeth were brushed, he started throwing one of the biggest tantrums I've ever seen him throw. We attempted to get him into his bed more than 3 times and were back downstairs with him several times before he finally fell asleep on the floor at 10:30.
This routine pretty much continued all week and he didn't take a nap for me until today (Friday) and tonight is finally going better, with much less crying and screaming.
As Brad and I were putting bedding on his bed Sunday night, we sat down on it to look at the transformation his room taken on and talked about how it was no longer a nursery but a little boy's room. The crib and changing table were gone and what was left was a bed! As I mentally went to a deeper level with it, tears began to roll down my face. The baby days were over. I thought back to the day we switched Gabby over. At that time, it was exciting because we knew we had another baby on the way but this time it was so different. This was it! THE last baby! Most likely, these days would never be revisited again....and while I am happy that Carson is healthy and growing, it made me sad. It was such a bittersweet moment for me. I often find myself not wanting to get rid of the "baby" things we have left. It's more an emotional attachment than anything else. So, the crib is going to be kept at mom and dad's for future grandchildren and that makes me happy because I will be able to revisit the baby days when we go to visit.
It was quite obvious that Carson was not excited about this new change as he would not even walk into his room by himself.
Sunday night was a nightmare! We started Carson's bedtime routine at 9:00 just like we always do but to no avail. As soon as his teeth were brushed, he started throwing one of the biggest tantrums I've ever seen him throw. We attempted to get him into his bed more than 3 times and were back downstairs with him several times before he finally fell asleep on the floor at 10:30.
This routine pretty much continued all week and he didn't take a nap for me until today (Friday) and tonight is finally going better, with much less crying and screaming.
As Brad and I were putting bedding on his bed Sunday night, we sat down on it to look at the transformation his room taken on and talked about how it was no longer a nursery but a little boy's room. The crib and changing table were gone and what was left was a bed! As I mentally went to a deeper level with it, tears began to roll down my face. The baby days were over. I thought back to the day we switched Gabby over. At that time, it was exciting because we knew we had another baby on the way but this time it was so different. This was it! THE last baby! Most likely, these days would never be revisited again....and while I am happy that Carson is healthy and growing, it made me sad. It was such a bittersweet moment for me. I often find myself not wanting to get rid of the "baby" things we have left. It's more an emotional attachment than anything else. So, the crib is going to be kept at mom and dad's for future grandchildren and that makes me happy because I will be able to revisit the baby days when we go to visit.
Look out kindergarten, here comes Gabby!
Yes, that's right! Gabby is going to kindergarten this fall. Her first day is August 13th and I'd be lying if I said I felt like it was quite a while away. I cannot believe my little girl is old enough to go to school. While I am excited for her, there is also a little piece of my heart that is dreading that day. I know she will go and be successful in every aspect of school but I feel as if this is a whole new chapter in life. Gone are the days we could take off and do anything at any time, we will soon be on school schedule. We got confirmation this week that she got into afternoon kindergarten which is what we wanted as she is not much of a morning person and I wanted to keep it as close to Carson's nap schedule as possible so not only I could have a little time to myself each day but also so Brad could have that time to work.
So I'm grasping on to each day and enjoying it. Gabby has grown into a very well behaved little girl and she is a joy to take out and about. I love spending time with her and hearing all she has to say. I can only hope that our relationship continues to grow and we keep bonding like we are now. I look forward to many, many great memories with her. Thank you, Gabby for being the little girl I always dreamed of having.
So I'm grasping on to each day and enjoying it. Gabby has grown into a very well behaved little girl and she is a joy to take out and about. I love spending time with her and hearing all she has to say. I can only hope that our relationship continues to grow and we keep bonding like we are now. I look forward to many, many great memories with her. Thank you, Gabby for being the little girl I always dreamed of having.
Black Birds
So, we've got a little problem at the Beeman House. We seem to have a family of blackbirds that have nested in our gutters on the highest corner of our house. While I don't like them and I despise the mess they are making out of the back of my house (bird poop on almost every window and all over the siding), it really is funny to watch Brad. I giggle and call him out to the kitchen in the evening to let him know his friends are outside looking for things to take back to the nest and he almost comes unglued. What he'd really like to do is find a B B Gun and shoot at them but I think he's refraining out of fear that we may get a "Redneck" sign up in our yard if he does. He has put in a call to "Creatures Great and Small" and we are planning to have them come soon to help the birds find their way out. This is the second summer we've had trouble with them, last summer they kept getting into our grill and building nests. Yes, every time we wanted to grill, we had to clean it out and get a good fire going before we could put food on the grill. There are some birds I love...but blackbirds aren't one of them!
Life's a whirlwind
It's been awhile since I last posted. Over 6 weeks to be exact. There was a time a couple of weeks ago that life was so hectic, I couldn't catch my breath. I had been cleaning some extra houses and felt as if Brad and I were meeting each other coming....and going. It took his dad's surgery to break us out of our crazy routines so we could take a day and head to Noblesville to see him. Having time in the car with Brad was good for both of us. With my sister getting married in just 8 days, there have been many opportunities to share with her what has helped Brad and I to "make it" in our marriage. The one thing I always stress is that communication is so important and yet, while I was giving this advice, I wasn't taking it myself. There was finally a day that I just broke down as I felt like I was living under the same roof as the love of my life and NEVER saw him. Our "communication" was all taking place through email or phone conversation throughout the day because our evenings are usually consumed with our kids or other activities or meetings. I missed my husband and I wanted him back! I wanted the time that I used to get with him. So, you can understand why I was more than happy to take off for Noblesville, knowing I would get the one on one time that I needed with him and I'd even get to share a meal with him...ALONE! No kids, no interruptions. Just Brad and I. It was great!
After our day together, I felt like I was refreshed and ready to go on. I felt like I got the time I needed with him and although I don't get to see him as much as I'd like, it's those little bouts of one on one time that mean so much to me! Thank you, Brad.
So what have we been busy doing? Well, about 4 weeks ago, we had our annual garage sale. This is the third year we've done it and I always wonder if it's worth all the work and trouble. We didn't make much money off of it this year but I always feel better after it's done because I don't bring much (if anything) back into the house once it's out so there's a sense of accomplishment knowing I got rid of a bunch of stuff.
I also completed another year as MOPS coordinator at our church. It was a crazy year with it being such a long winter and many meetings were cancelled but the year ended on a good note and I look forward to next year.
Brad is keeping busy at the office and still LOVES his job. I have tried to simplify my own life by only cleaning on Wednesdays so that he can spend more time at the office. He also took over a vacated position on our Home Association Board so that takes him to meetings at least once a month.
In the midst of this, we are still a family with young members and so we keep busy just being mommy and daddy to Carson and Gabby. With as much frustration as we sometimes experience with this job, Brad and I love it and they are our pride and joy. I used to say that one day, this will slow down and one day, it may but until then, I'm doing my best at just trying to hold it all together and take care of what's important. I'm learning to say no to things in order to simplify and it's helping.
After our day together, I felt like I was refreshed and ready to go on. I felt like I got the time I needed with him and although I don't get to see him as much as I'd like, it's those little bouts of one on one time that mean so much to me! Thank you, Brad.
So what have we been busy doing? Well, about 4 weeks ago, we had our annual garage sale. This is the third year we've done it and I always wonder if it's worth all the work and trouble. We didn't make much money off of it this year but I always feel better after it's done because I don't bring much (if anything) back into the house once it's out so there's a sense of accomplishment knowing I got rid of a bunch of stuff.
I also completed another year as MOPS coordinator at our church. It was a crazy year with it being such a long winter and many meetings were cancelled but the year ended on a good note and I look forward to next year.
Brad is keeping busy at the office and still LOVES his job. I have tried to simplify my own life by only cleaning on Wednesdays so that he can spend more time at the office. He also took over a vacated position on our Home Association Board so that takes him to meetings at least once a month.
In the midst of this, we are still a family with young members and so we keep busy just being mommy and daddy to Carson and Gabby. With as much frustration as we sometimes experience with this job, Brad and I love it and they are our pride and joy. I used to say that one day, this will slow down and one day, it may but until then, I'm doing my best at just trying to hold it all together and take care of what's important. I'm learning to say no to things in order to simplify and it's helping.
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